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To the God Nobody Knows

To the God Nobody Knows



“I believe that the greatest truths of the universe don’t lie outside, in the study of the stars and the planets. They lie deep within us, in the magnificence of our heart, mind, and soul. Until we understand what is within, we can’t understand what is without.”

Anita Moorjani

Do you ever have those moments where your skin tingles a little extra, like someone else’s guardian angel just whisked by in a hurry to get to their next assignment? Those moments where you’d swear God was sitting right next to you, be it in the car, at the office, or the coffee shop? It doesn’t have to be for any reason in particular, and the space doesn’t have to be particularly sacred, but do you ever have those days where it seems like God is whispering things – yet unknown – to the deepest parts of your soul?

Your ways, O Lord, are higher and

Your knowledge is immense;

So give us strength to trust You when

Life doesn’t make much sense.Sper

Logic might say it was just a strand of hair that tickled my neck. Or the air conditioner being turned on in the office. It could have been a nerve-ending gone haywire. Or a random case of goosebumps.

Maybe so. Maybe not.

The unspiritual self, just as it is by nature, can’t receive the gifts of God’s Spirit. There’s no capacity for them. They seem like so much silliness. Spirit can be known only by spirit—God’s Spirit and our spirits in open communion.

1 Corinthians 2: 14-16

These rare and precious moments happen to me from time to time, and all I can say is that they feel like God. I can’t argue it with logic. I can’t explain it away with science. I can only tell you that in those brief moments, time stands still, and I sense the embrace of God. Those silent few seconds, when no words are audibly spoken, deep things are being written on my soul.

In the silence, I’m transported to another dimension. I close my eyes, and I feel grace washing over me. I know it’s grace, and not just a whiff of the honeysuckle outside my window because the honeysuckle has never given me eternal hope in the midst of trying times. This silence – this washing – the Comfort belongs only to the Holy Spirit of God – an invisible Connector between my soul and my Creator.

In Acts 17, some Greeks inscribed a message TO THE GOD NOBODY KNOWS, but the greatest mystery of faith is that this seemingly unknown God is intricately familiar to every woven fiber of my soul.

THE GOD NOBODY KNOWS isn’t a human-made statue. It’s not an idol, carved by hand. God doesn’t equate to dogma, devised by the imagination of those who hunger for power. The God of Mystery is thicker than the incense that fills the altar. And in that Mystery, I store up hope for future days when my heart is overwhelmed.

So to whom will you compare me, the Incomparable? Can you picture me without reducing me? I am God, and there is none like Me.Isaiah 46:5-9

It’s easy for me to get caught up in trying to answer all of life’s big questions. In this season of my life, there seems to be a new existential crisis at every turn. Should I take the Bible at face value? Is the Jesus of the Bible the only way to God? Can I embrace my faith without abandoning my intellect? While the old me sought solutions for these and many more stumbling blocks, the new me is learning the power of the pause.

With each breath, God is whispering truth to my soul:

Breathe in: I love you.

Breathe out: I am here.

Breathe in: I will never turn my face from you.

Breathe out: I am more than your wildest dreams.

For in Him we live and move and have our being.Acts 17:28

I’m leaning in. I’m taking deep breaths. At this point, I’m not even asking what God is saying. Instead, I am embracing Divine Mystery. My spirit is being cultivated by The God Who Sees Me. I have a deep inner-knowing that the Source of Love is here with me, breathing life back into my dry and cracked lungs. And that is more than enough for me.

To the God Nobody Knows

Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Looking for more ways to create space? Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here. 

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Is it Time to Rethink Church?



Is it time to rethink church? In Episode 33 of The #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve Austin welcomes Ryan Dunn to the conversation. Lots of folks have been wounded by the church. And others feel that the church has lost touch with modern life. Does that sound like you? Or are you a clergy person, struggling to connect with those who have walked away from traditional church? If any of those examples sound like you, don’t miss this episode!

rethink church

Show notes:

  • Is church just a thing we do for an hour on a Sunday morning?
  • What do we think about when we think about church?
  • What is it about the Church that makes you want to walk away?
  • Can people of faith really ever walk away from the church?
  • What advice do you have for pastor’s to re-engage with people who have walked away?
  • “Open Minds, Open Hearts, Open Doors” – why does this phrase matter today more than ever?
  • How should the church respond in trying times like these?
  • The church should be an invitation to authenticity and intimacy.
  • How does someone continue to live with their questions, but not run (or disengage) from a church who is constantly giving them the answers?
  • A lot of times when it comes to faith, we’re aiming at moving targets.
  • What if we created a church community around the questions?
  • One Thing Depressed People Need from the Church (by Steve Austin)
  • Scars and Church (by Steve Austin)
  • Music: “Sunny” https://www.bensound.com

Ryan Dunn bio: Convinced that social media is increasingly where people gather, Rev. Ryan Dunn seeks to help the church meet the world through online relationship building. He currently serves with United Methodist Communications as the chief blogger, editor, and social media minister for the Rethink Church initiative. His prior work experiences include youth pastor, sports blogger, web marketer, and radio producer.

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Church should be an invitation to authenticity and intimacy.


i am connected

Weekly Affirmation #4: I AM Connected



We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

-Brene’ Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

i am connected

WEEK FOUR’S THEME: I AM CONNECTED

Who are you? At the core of your being – who are you? Steve Austin’s weekly affirmation #4 is all about being connected. When we are connected to God, others, and (most importantly) our selves, it is hard to feel alone. Thomas Merton said, ““Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone – we find it with another.”

Welcome to Week Four of Steve Austin’s weekly affirmation episode. Each week, this will be a mix of affirmations, meditation, contemplation, and prayer. Steve hopes it encourages you to get silent, look deep into your soul, below the surface of all the noise and find out who you are at the core of your being.

brene brown quote connection

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Music provided by Tony Anderson. Check out Tony’s website here. Tony says, “What I write is simply an overflow of interactions I have with my own brokenness. Some of it comes in dreams – other times it emerges from seasons of sorrow, humiliation, warfare, joy, and pain. In each piece, I am audibly sharing my heart, and it is the highest privilege to hear from people who resonate with it.” Music from the score of “The Heart of Man”. Get information on the film here.


How to Design a Life of Authenticity

How to Design a Life of Authenticity



In Episode 31 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve is joined by two of his IRL friends, Dennis Gable and Angie Von Slaughter. Dennis and Angie are designers who know a thing or two about messy grace and vulnerability. Listen to this powerful conversation between three great friends.

How to Design a Life of Authenticity

Show notes:

  • Story and the power of vulnerability
  • VLNRable app
  • What does it mean to be held with open hands?

  • When we say “design” or “art”, are we talking about the same thing?

  • At the root of design is problem-solving.

  • Self-Care for the Wounded Soul, by Steve Austin

  • Article by The Atlantic about Alice Rawsthorn and her book, Hello World: Where Design Meets Life

  • “Design is one of the most powerful forces in our lives, whether or not we are aware of it, and can also be inspiring, empowering and enlightening,” – Rawsthorn

  • “I find the old-fashioned assumption that design is somehow inferior to art to be deeply damaging.” – Rawsthorn

  • “As digital products become ever more powerful and versatile, design has an important role to play in enabling us to use them confidently, efficiently and, if we’re very lucky, enjoyably.” – Rawsthorn

  • “If you believe in design as a powerful and productive medium that can help to build a better life, it stands to reason that we need the best possible designers to do so,” she continued. “We are not likely to get them if design is seen as so marginal a discipline that its practitioners are eager to reclassify themselves as artists. Also, the richer, more diverse, and [more] inclusive design becomes, the more compelling it will seem, thereby enabling it to attract the high caliber of designers that society needs.” – Rawsthorn

  • When you ring the doorbell at someone’s home, do you use your index finger or thumb?
  • “If your identity is broken, your life is broken.” -Mike Foster

  • “There’s no greater place of freedom, being a human, than to look in the mirror and like who you see.” -Dennis Gable

  • “Design should always be in the service of a better life.” – Rawsthorn

  • “Hope is in the struggle. Joy is in the rebuilding.” -Dennis Gable

  • CXMH Episode with Kay Warren

  • “Hope is the thing with claws.” – Steve Austin

  • 8 Habits of Love, by Ed Bacon

  • “We have this really weird way of compartmentalizing ourselves, but that’s not how it works. God is everywhere, and in all, and accepting, and loving, and sitting with us in it all.” – Angie Von Slaughter

  • “The biggest problem with the church is that we have this fallacy that we have to be perfect to lead and help people. People are leaving the church in droves because they want realness.” – Angie Von Slaughter

  • “We forget to give people permission to be fully human. We were human before we were ever anything else.” – Steve Austin

  • “Not one of us are alone in the macro details of our life.” – Dennis Gable

Bios:

Dennis makes a living as a creative director & designer. He’s lives in PHX with his wife & two phenomenal children. He cares deeply about people getting out of the place they’re in and moving forward into something greater. Dennisgable.com

Angie Von Slaughter is a Phoenix-based creative, musician and speaker. She is the Founder of Mousse Creative, a branding & design agency as well as Co-Founder of VLNRABLE, an app, and podcast that dives into vulnerability and living genuinely. After years of living a partitioned life, she seeks to guide others down a path of wholeness. She frequently speaks on authenticity, creativity and the intersection of faith and sexuality. Connect with Angie at MousseCreative.com

Do you like who you see in the mirror?


How Do I Get More Sex?



You asked for it, well now you got it. In Episode 30 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve Austin talks with Katie and Candice from Free Sex Podcast about how to get more sex. This is the conversation you’ve been waiting for! If you’re married and tired of #LameChristianSex, don’t miss this episode.

get more sex











Disclaimer: This episode is NSFW. If you’re easily offended, don’t listen. If sex talk makes you uncomfortable, skip this episode. If you’re a victim of sexual trauma, this one could be triggering. If you’ve been doing it missionary position since 1984 and you’re perfectly content, this may not be the episode for you (or maybe it totally freakin’ is).

Don’t listen with your kids in the car. Or your Grandma. 

If you ignore these warnings and disclaimers, do NOT email Steve Austin to complain.

Otherwise, buckle up and get ready to have some fun. This one is gonna blow your…mind.

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In this episode:

  1. How can we counter some of the damage of purity culture we grew up in once we are married?

  2. What should pastors be saying from the pulpit?

  3. Is Jesus peeking under the door while my wife and I do the horizontal polka?

  4. What do you do when she (or he) doesn’t want it?

  5. Sex after kids?

  6. What do you think is ok/not ok for looking at the opposite sex?

  7. What do women REALLY think about oral?

  8. My wife has an orgasm every time we have sex. Sometimes twice. Is she lying to me?

  9. The truth about marriage and masturbation

  10. Sex furniture

  11. What about men or women who were victims of abuse and have hang-ups around sex?

  12. Sexual hygiene

  13. The one sex toy every married couple needs

  14. Confession – I love dirty talk. Am I going to hell?

  15. WTF is pegging?

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Candice and Katie started Free Sex Podcast to have an open and grace-filled conversation about sex and marriage in the Christian community. Pushing away from shame and embarrassment brought on by the purity culture, they talk unfiltered about their marriages, interview experts and answer questions sent in by their listeners. You can get all the details at FreeSexPod.com and subscribe on iTunes. Got more questions? Email Katie and Candice at hello@freesexpod.com

lame christian sex

Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Looking for more ways to create space? Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here. 


i am whole

Weekly Affirmation #3: I am Whole.



“Heaven means to be one with God.”

— Confucius

Who are you? At the core of your being – who are you? Steve Austin’s weekly affirmation #3 is all about being whole. Being whole – mind, body, and spirit – is Heaven on earth. David Wilkerson said, “Tears come when the last barrier is down – when you surrender yourself to health and wholeness.”

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WEEK TWO’S THEME: WHOLENESS.

Welcome to Week Three of Steve Austin’s weekly affirmation episode. Each week, this will be a mix of affirmations, meditation, contemplation, and prayer. Steve hopes it encourages you to get silent, look deep into your soul, below the surface of all the noise and find out who you are at the core of your being.

If you have a suggestion for this weekly feature, please email Steve at steve@iamsteveaustin.com or fill out the form below. If you’d like to suggest a topic or request Steve’s perspective on a particular word, please reach out!

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Music provided by Tony Anderson. Check out Tony’s website here. Tony says, “What I write is simply an overflow of interactions I have with my own brokenness. Some of it comes in dreams – other times it emerges from seasons of sorrow, humiliation, warfare, joy, and pain. In each piece, I am audibly sharing my heart, and it is the highest privilege to hear from people who resonate with it.” Music from the score of “The Heart of Man”. Get information on the film here.


Stop Trying to be The Proverbs 31 Woman



Stephanie Long joins Steve Austin for Episode 28 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast. Stephanie says women should stop trying to be The Proverbs 31 Woman (because she wasn’t even a real woman). In this episode, we’ll talk about women in the church, feminism, rape culture, and so much more!

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stephanie long

Bio: Stephanie Long is a writer, editor, wife, and mother. She writes at redeemedformore.com about life, faith, social justice issues, and mental health. Connect with her on Twitter @stephanielong85 and on Facebook at facebook.com/redeemedformore.

YOU CAN ALSO LISTEN ON ITUNES OR PODBEAN.

Show Notes:

  • Women are not the afterthought of creation.
  • The Proverbs 31 Woman was not a real person.
  • Link to Not Your Pastor’s Pulpit Episode
  • Relevant Magazine Article – #ThingsOnlyChristianWomenHear
  • Objectification of Our ‘Dangerous’ Bodies
  • Abuse and Rape in the Church
  • Women’s Roles and Identity
  • Racism and Sexism
  • So if I’m a male leader in the church – or just a Christian who happens to be a man – what do you need from me? 
  • Abortion
  • Rape culture
  • Why does the church assume it is the woman’s responsibility to not in any way ‘provoke’ men?
  • Music by Act of Congress

Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Looking for more ways to create space? Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here.