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5 Dates with Mike Foster

Why You Should Stop Focusing on Your Relationship Problems (Mike Foster)



Join Steve Austin and Mike Foster on Episode 51 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast for a brand-new look at relationships. If you’re tired of hearing the same old relationship advice, don’t miss this talk about Mike and Jennifer Foster’s new workbook, Five Dates.

5 Dates with Mike Foster

Show notes:

  • Mike Foster describes himself as an imperfectionist and friend of second chancers. He has published wonderfully helpful curriculum like “Freeway” and “Wonderflife” and started the Rescue Academy, which I’ve had the joy of working through. Mike’s work has been featured on Good Morning America, Fox News and in the New York Times, plus an appearance on the Daily Show with Jon Stewart.
  • Listen and subscribe to Mike’s FunTherapy podcast.
  • Talking styles of men and women (hint: they’re different).
  • What do we need to know if we’re in a relationship with someone who has a lot of past trauma or baggage?
  • What role does compassion play in a relationship?
  • Advice for the couple who says, “we’ve tried everything and nothing has worked”.
  • Marriage counseling usually doesn’t work because: a) people go too late, and b) focusing on problems stirs up more problems and pain.
  • Get the book at FiveDates.co
  • Check out People of the Second Chance at secondchance.org
  • Retweet Steve’s pinned post on Twitter for a chance to win a copy of the Five Dates workbooks!

Tweetable Moments with Mike:

  • Fifty percent of any relationship is one hundred percent you.
  • I’m going to spend the rest of my life helping people feel less alone.
  • … loneliness does not come from being alone, but from being unheard.
  • Complexity keeps people stuck.
  • I want to have compassion anchor every transaction.
  • Don’t work on your problems, work on your togetherness.
  • Men communicate to win and to compete; women communicate to create togetherness and connection.
  • Blame is a quick way to discharge our pain.
  • Oftentimes, the problems we’re facing today come from our family of origin.

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  • Steve Austin’s first book, the Amazon best-seller, From Pastor to a Psych Ward, is now on Audible! It was the #1 new release in the suicide category last week. Steve is giving away free downloads of this new audio book, and all you have to do to snag one is email steve@iamsteveaustin.com if you live in the US or UK.
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The Journey to Wholeness in a Time of Polarization (Paul Young & Ed Bacon)



To celebrate the 50th Episode of the #AskSteveAustin, Steve Austin welcomes Paul Young and Ed Bacon to the show. In this episode, the three friends talk about the journey to wholeness in a time of religious and political polarization.

Ed Bacon is an Episcopal priest, speaker, and author of 8 Habits of Love. Now, after decades of leading churches, he travels from his Alabama home, teaching across all spiritual paths as well as in non-religious contexts how our Oneness in Love overcomes our separateness in fear. He also works to help save the Pando forest in southern Utah. You can follow Ed at edbacon.co

Paul Young is author of The Shack, Crossroads, Eve, and Lies We Believe about God. On Paul’s website (wmpaulyoung.com), he asks the question, “Is it possible to craft a space for community and conversation free of the divisiveness of politics or religion or ideology…a space for you to explore life, God, the world and what it is to be fully human, and to do so alongside a growing group of friends?” If that sounds like a place you’d like to belong, you are going to LOVE the 50th episode. Welcome, friend!

Show Notes:

  1. This week’s special guest host is Princess Caroline Austin, with a special rendition of her favorite song from Disney’s Moana.
  2. What are we talking about when we talk about wholeness?
  3. When it seems like everyone is standing across the great chasm, shouting at each other, all of those things sound great – but what does it look like in real life to make or become the bridge?
  4. Ed recently said, “I passionately believe that the myth of the separate self or even of the separate political or cultural or religious group is a delusion.” What does this mean?
  5. Paul says, “Anywhere you find good in this world you are witnessing the active expression of the activity of God and human participation in the life of God.”
  6. Paul Young doesn’t believe that God blesses anyone’s politics.
  7. Paul and Ed respond to 2 listener questions.
  8. Ed tells us the 9th Habit of Love, which didn’t quite make the book.

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Other episodes you can’t miss:

  1. The Wonderful Truth about Heaven and Hell (with Ed Bacon)
  2. The Shack and Lies We Believe about God (with Paul Young)
  3. The Shack and Lies We Believe about God (Part Two – with Paul Young)
  4. Liturgy of the Forsaken (feat. Paul Young)
  5. The Miracle and the Mystery of Christmas (with Ed Bacon)
  6. Forgiveness is the Death of Ego (with Ed Bacon)
  7. Faith that Heals Bigotry and Bodies (with Ed Bacon)

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How to Design a Life Worth Admiring (Stephen Mear)



On Episode 49 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve Austin is joined by Stephen Mear. Stephen is an award-winning choreographer and dancer from England. A two-time Laurence Olivier Award Winner, and Tony Nominee. He has worked on Mary PoppinsHello Dolly, The Little Mermaid, the UK’s version of So You Think You Can Dance, and lots more!

Stephen Mear

Whether you’re a fan of musical theatre or not, this conversation is a great look at what it takes to design a life worth admiring. Stephen talks about such traits as work ethic, respect, humility, the Law of Attraction, and self-care.

Follow @StephenMear on Twitter today!

(And stay tuned until the end of this episode for a preview of Steve Austin’s upcoming book, Overwhelmed.)

 

 


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Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith



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In Episode 48 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Benjamin L. Corey, author of the new book, Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith, joins Steve Austin for a powerful conversation about rethinking everything about faith.

Dr. Benjamin L. Corey is a two-time graduate of Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and holds his doctorate from Fuller Theological Seminary. He is also the author of the new book, Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith, which is available wherever good books are sold. www.Unafraid-book.com


Show notes:

  • What would you say to someone who doesn’t know what they believe anymore?
  • Put the Theological Gas Cans Down
  • How do you turn a crisis of faith into an awakening? How do I move forward?
  • How do we begin to reframe our faith after deconstruction?
  • What if you’re a faith leader and you find yourself in a crisis of faith?
  • Benefits of secular mental health counseling or therapy for ministers
  • How do we help people stop living the miserable Christian life?
  • Have we made an idol out of the Bible?
  • Does what we believe about the future matter?
  • What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever lived through? And how have you reconciled that with your belief in a God of love?
  • When we have our faith ass-backward, how do we start over?

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How to Create a Larger Vision (Jeremy Lopez)



The second episode of 2018 is all about vision, which Dr. Jeremy Lopez says begins with a journey inward.

Dictionary.com defines the word “vision” as – the act or power of anticipating that which will or may come to be; And those of us who have grown up in the church most of our lives have constantly heard things like, “Without vision, the people perish”.

But what is the importance of having a vision in 2018?

create a larger vision

Quotes you can’t miss:

  • The outward is just an overflow of the inward.
  • You attract what’s in your heart.
  • Your body is one big memory bank.
  • All emotions have a foundation. When you feel strongly about something, you are just projecting the highest vibrational frequency of that particular energy.
  • What you behold, you become.
  • All of us create monsters or demons every day because we don’t understand our creative power.
  • Visualization means to peak, view, or give your attention to something. It’s from the same Hebrew root as the word Behold.
  • Vision combines attention and intention.
  • Everything in your life right now is a manifestation of what you have said, done, or thought.
  • Manipulate your mind. Manipulation is not always bad. Convince your mind of what it should think or look like.
  • Presentation to God is everything. What are you presenting to God?
  • My dream is to know the highest version of myself.
  • If you want something outwardly, you always have to go inward.
  • Frustration is trying to tell you something.
  • Get to know yourself.

Today’s guest is Dr. Jeremy Lopez, Founder and President of Identity Network, one of the world’s largest prophetic resource websites. He is an entrepreneur, successful dream and life coach, motivational speaker, humanitarian and teacher. His love and passion for discovering and teaching people how to release the mindsets that holds them back from achieving their fullest potential is what drives him and gives his life purpose and meaning.


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Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here. Looking for more? If you’re ready to change your life, email steve@iamsteveaustin.com today.

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power of intention

The Power of Intention (with Logan Tyler Nelson)



In Episode 46 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve Austin talks with Logan Tyler Nelson about the power of embracing and cultivating intentionality in our daily lives. Today’s big question: Is life happening to you, or for you?

power of intention

Show Notes:

Dictionary.com defines the word “intention” like this – an act or instance of determining mentally upon some act or result; another definition is this: purpose or attitude toward the effect of one’s actions or conduct:

Oprah says this, “The #1 principle that rules my life is intention. Thought by thought, choice by choice, we are cocreating our lives based on the energy of intention.”

But what about that quote we’ve heard all our lives, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”? What’s missing between Oprah’s perspective and this old adage about the road to hell?

In Oprah’s book of quotes, The Wisdom of Sundays, Gary Zukav describes the difference between an INtention and an OUTtention. What most of us think of as an intention is actually the outward version of that. Gary’s example is this, “I want to get another job, so I can have more money.” But the INTENTION, as Oprah says it, is the WHY beneath the why. It’s the motivation for getting the new job or more money that counts. It’s the energy you use for doing the intended thing.

Click here to read this week’s blog by Steve Austin, “3 Powerful Ways to Create the Life You Want”.


Quotes from today’s show:

  • “We create our own world. We are responsible for our attitude. That’s the reason you have the reality or the life you are living right now.”
  • “If your life stinks you had something to do with it and the opposite is true. If your life is good you had something to do with it.”
  • “Time is finite.”
  • “To make a life worth living is to save someone from negative thinking.”
  • “Knowing your why is very important, but we have to know the action steps to get there.”
  • “Quality of life comes down to quality of questions.”
  • “To create a life worth living requires a bit of patience and clarity.”
  • “Is life happening to you, or for you?”
  • Oprah Winfrey, “Intention is one with cause and effect. Intention determines outcome. And if you’re stuck and not moving forward, you have to check the thought and the action that created the circumstance.”
  • Donald Miller said, “It is not so much the aim of the devil to lure me with evil as it is to preoccupy me with the meaningless.”

Logan Tyler Nelson is the creator of Scratch You Own Itch podcast, Performance Enhancement Expert, and Published author on Thrive Global.  He inspires and motivates you to “Scratch Your Own Itch” so you can grow personally and professionally.

Logan equips people with the tools necessary to live CREATIVE and EPIC lives, and leaves people better equipped to manage change effectively.  His WHY is he’s a suicide survivor, and shares his powerful testimony globally.

Connect with Logan:

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Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here. Looking for more? If you’re ready to change your life, email steve@iamsteveaustin.com today.


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big year-ender

The Big Year-Ender! (feat. Devin Balram & Ukulele Tracy)



Episode 45 is THE BIG YEAR-ENDER! This is one awesome and random mashup of messy grace and mayhem. In this episode, Steve Austin chats with musical guest, Devin Balram, plus his friend (and fellow heretic), Tracy Kane, AKA Ukulele Tracy.

big year-enderShow Notes:

Also from the Messy Grace Tribe this week:

Top 3 Listener-Favorite Episodes of 2017:

  1. How Do I Get More Sex?
  2. How to Survive When Your Spouse Tries to Die by Suicide
  3. 6 Ways to Defeat Discouragement Today

Lyrics to, “Weak Sometimes”:

 V1

You’re put to together, you’re so well & put together

That even on your tragic days, you seem fine

You try so hard, to hide that there’s a fight inside

But I can see it in your eyes, that you seem fine

 

Chorus

Who ever said, it was wrong to be weak sometimes,

To cry yourself to sleep, & wake up with your tears barely dry

You might feel like you’re dying, that the end is no where in sight

Who ever said, it was wrong to be weak sometimes

 

V2

You say that pain just gets in the way

Just let it sit, it’ll dissipate

You say that no one’s had a better day,

By dealing with their shame.

Download Devin’s music today – https://noisetrade.com/devinbalram/

Coming up in 2018:

  • Benjamin L Corey
  • Carol Howard Merritt
  • Jay Bakker
  • And we’re getting close to my 50th episode – stay tuned!

Steve Austin is an Amazon best-selling author, life coach, and self-care consultant. Feeling stuck, stressed, or overwhelmed? Get your copy of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul on Amazon today!


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The Miracle and the Mystery of Christmas



In Episode 44, Steve is joined by friend of the show, the Rev. Ed Bacon. This episode is also packed full of your stories! Check this fun-filled episode out for Christmas carols with Ben and Cara, plus favorite Christmas memories from listeners. And don’t miss Ed Bacon’s thoughts on why Christmas still matters. This is a holiday celebration for the whole family!

christmas 2017

Show notes:

Steve Austin is an Amazon best-selling author, life coach, and self-care consultant. Feeling stuck, stressed, or overwhelmed? Get your copy of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul on Amazon today!


something better than christianity

Is There Something Better than Christianity?



In Episode 43 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve is joined by Scott Watkins – an ex-pastor, and former co-host of the Holy Heretics Podcast. In this conversation, the guys talk about to talk about life after Christianity and what it means to be a secular humanist.

Most folks who listen to this podcast love to throw around the word “deconstruction”, but most of them still call themselves some kind of Christian. But what happens when you deconstruct your faith and what you’re left with is no longer appealing? Deeper than that – what happens when it no longer feels like Truth? What do you do when you deconstruct and no longer call yourself a Christian?

something better than christianity

Highlights from today’s episode:

  • “If you love everybody, then you don’t love anybody.”
  • “When your religion becomes toxic, you need to run from it.”
  • “Religion is simply a meaning-making device.”
  • “Spirituality isn’t about answers, but meaning.”
  • “I’m not against Christianity, but I’m for humanity.”
  • “I don’t think Church is about following Jesus. I think it’s about the consolidation of power.”
  • “God is just a projection of the deepest part of our self; and quite frankly, so is the Devil.”
  • “We should absolutely say that people matter more than beliefs.”
  • “Life a life useful.”

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The Gifts of Grief? Are You Serious?



In Episode 42, Steve has way too much fun with the best-selling author (and ok, fine, his friend, Natalie Can-I-Get-Your-Autograph Brenner).

gifts of grief

So, in many instances, the AskSteveAustin podcast has become the place where progressive Christian authors and artists come to share their work. And let me tell you – Natalie Brenner has written a book that I love. This Undeserved Life: Uncovering the Gifts of Grief and the Fullness of Life is beautiful. The writing…omg…it’s beautiful. There are a few writers I know whose words like sing right off the page, and they are, Sarah Robinson, Anne Voskamp, and Natalie Brenner.

When books make me silently weep, without fanfare, just cry those big fat releasing tears because my soul is saying yes – that’s a good book. That’s a really REALLY good book.

Questions about the gifts of grief:

  1. You talk about Jesus in a very genuine and loving way – but your heart at times has nearly been crushed under the weight of grief. How do you reconcile the two? And what the heck do you mean when you say the gifts of grief?
  2. Can we talk about the struggle with church hurts when all you really want to do is love Jesus and his people?
  3. Who is Jesus?
  4. Why is it so important to create a safe space for others to be vulnerable?
  5. What’s it like to parent a child of a different race?
  6. Autographed book giveaway! Retweet this week’s pinned post on twitter @iamsteveaustin for your chance to win a personalized, autographed copy of This Undeserved Life by Natalie Brenner
  7. Compassion means to co-suffer. OMG. Yes, she said that.
  8. NatalieBrennerWrites.com
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