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looking for god in the darkness

Looking for God in the Darkness



Content Warning: In this episode, we talk about suicide, self-harm, and abortion.

Welcome to Episode 58, a special Good Friday episode of The #AskSteveAustin Podcast. If you’re in a hard time, experiencing a dark night of the soul, wondering where on earth God has gone, you are welcome here.

looking for god in the darkness

This episode originally aired on CXMH Podcast for Good Friday 2017, as a way for friends of the show to stand with us in the tension between crucifixion and resurrection, acknowledging that there are parts of our stories that still haven’t been healed. The truth is, at some point, we’ve all found ourselves looking for God in the darkness.

Show Notes:

Let The Darkness Shape You by L.J. Vanier (read by Steve Austin)
We Don’t Talk About This On Good Friday by Sarah Simmons
Trusting Through the Suck by Steve Austin
Pierced By a Song by Rev. Liz Edman
When Jesus Comes Into Our Great Sadness by William Paul Young
The Work of the People by Stephanie Gates
Stigma by Dan from Canada
A Litany for Survival by Audre Lorde (read by Grace Sandra)
Take and Eat by J.J. Landis
Finding God in the Tension by Robert Vore

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Sarah Simmons is a writer, learner and creative mess. She’s been an accidental youth pastor, and helped run a mentoring program for church leaders. She’s in love with redemption, pancakes and fish tacos. (Website) (Twitter)

Abuse, addiction, and a suicide attempt weren’t the end of Steve Austin’s story. Steve is host of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, an author, speaker, and life coach.. (Website) (Twitter)

Liz Edman is an Episcopal priest, a political strategist, and the author of Queer Virtue: What LGBTQ People Know About Life and Love and How It Can Revitalize Christianity. This year, she created and co-organized Glitter+Ash Wednesday, a project to increase the visibility of progressive, queer-positive Christians. She lives in New York City with her two awesome sons.   (Website) (Facebook) (Twitter)

Paul Young is author of The Shack, Crossroads, Eve, and Lies We Believe about God. (Website) (Twitter)

Stephanie Gates writes, edits, and raises a bunch of kids in Denver, Colorado. (Website)

Grace Sandra is a social & racial justice advocate, wife, mama and a writer of blogs & books. (Website) (Twitter)

JJ Landis is the author of Some Things You Keep: Letting go. Holding on. Growing up., a memoir about growing up after the suicide of her mother. She writes about parenting, marriage, and getting through the day. (Website) (Twitter)

Robert Vore is a writer, speaker, and Suicide Prevention instructor. (Website) (Facebook) (Twitter)

 


Banish Your Inner Critic

How to Banish Your Inner Critic (with Denise Jacobs)



WELCOME to Episode 57 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, with Steve Austin and Denise Jacobs, author of Banish Your Inner Critic. This show is sponsored by Audible.com – sign up for your free month’s membership at audibletrial.com/asksteveaustin!

Banish Your Inner Critic

Show Notes:

 

Tweetable Moments:

  • The selfishness that leads to self-lessness is called self-full-ness.
  • Changing the brain is driven by where we place our focus.
  • The closer we get to achieving grandeur, the louder the inner-critic becomes.
  • Staying curious is one powerful way to learn from criticism.
  • You have the power to change.

Denise Jacobs is an author, Keynote Speaker, plus Founder and Chief Creativity Evangelist at TheCreativeDose.com – Denise has written a wonderful new book, Banish Your Inner Critic: Silence the Voice of Self-Doubt to Unleash Your Creativity and Do Your Best Work.


Namaste' Project

The Namaste Project & Spiritual Self-Care (with Dr. Holly Oxhandler)



Welcome to Episode 55 of #AskSteveAustin Podcast, with Steve Austin and Dr. Holly Oxhandler. The show is sponsored by Audible.com – sign up for your free month’s membership at audibletrial.com/asksteveaustin!

Namaste' Project
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Housekeeping:

  1. Hot off the presses! I’m in the news. Go to Deseret News.com today and read her story on the epidemic of despair that is plaguing our country.
  2. I’m launching a Kickstarter campaign in the next few weeks, so save your pennies! If you believe in what I’m doing and you’d like to sponsor this new book, Catching Your Breath, please keep your eyes peeled for the launch of my Kickstarter.
  3. Follow the blog at iamsteveaustin.com for practical self-help tips and self-care advice from my perspective as a life coach and former pastor. (Also – sign up for my newsletter and get a free excerpt from my upcoming book, Catching Your Breath.)
  4. Are you interested in life coaching? I offer free consultations to anyone who’s ready to take their life, business, or relationship to the next level. Get all the details at iamsteveaustin.com and clicking on the coaching link.
  5. The #AskSteveAustin podcast is sponsored by Audible.com, and if you’re an Audible customer, my Amazon best-selling memoir, From Pastor to a Psych Ward, is now available! Want to listen to my book for free? Go to audibletrial.com/asksteveaustin
  6. Are you a member of the Messy Grace Tribe on Facebook? It’s an exclusive, closed Facebook group for supporters and guests of the AskSteveAustin podcast. If you’re looking for a way to continue this conversation every single day with other like-minded, grace-filled people, join the Messy Grace Tribe on Facebook! You can sign up for as little as $1 a month by going to patreon.com/iamsteveaustin.
  7. Music this episode by Act of Congress, and “Angel Band” by The Stanley Brothers.

The Namaste’ Project and Spiritual Self-Care – Questions:

  1. Could it be dangerous to have these conversations? Are there situations where this kind of talk could be harmful?
  2. What kind of impact could it have if helping professionals like LCSW’s started focusing on the whole person?
  3. How do you think holding sacred space for clients could impact their progress, recovery, or just everyday lives?
  4. What does the word Namaste’ mean, and what is this new project?
  5. What if you are a social worker who claims no faith or your religion is completely different from your client’s? How would that impact the client’s care?

Dr. Holly Oxhandler is the Associate Dean for Research and Faculty Development and an Assistant Professor at Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work. Holly studies religion/spirituality, health and mental health, and is especially interested in whether and how mental and behavioral health therapists discuss their client’s religious/spiritual beliefs in treatment. She developed and validated the Religious/Spiritually Integrated Practice Assessment Scale, has written for numerous academic journals, and her research has been featured in the Washington Post, Consumer Affairs, Religion News Service, Baptist News Global, and more.

Holly lives in Waco, TX with her husband, Cory, and the couple has two children: Callie (2012) and Oliver (2016). She loves to read, paint, meditate, learn about others’ stories over a cup of coffee, and most of all, spend time with her loved ones. You can follow Holly online at HollyOxhandler.com  and on Twitter @HollyOxhandler


AskSteveAustin Podcast

Mailbag Episode: Ask Me Anything! (with Steve Austin)



Welcome back to the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, episode 54, sponsored by Audible. This mailbag episode includes Steve Austin’s responses to listener questions about: faith, abuse, boundaries, stillness, and more!

Show notes:

  • For a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook? Just go to audibletrial.com/asksteveaustin
  • Follow blog at iamsteveaustin.com
  • My new book, Catching Your Breath: The Sacred Journey from Chaos to Calm, is due out in September! Want to stay up-to-date with all that’s happening with this new book? Sign up at catchingyourbreath.com! Subscribers get a free excerpt of the book, exclusive bonus content, earlybird discounts, and details on how to join the launch team.
  • Leave a 5-star rating and review on iTunes for a shoutout on the podcast!
  • Music by Act of Congress
  • Are you a member of the Messy Grace Tribe on Facebook?  You can sign up for as little as $1 a month by going to patreon.com/iamsteveaustin. If you’re looking for a safe and diverse community of people who care about compassion, unity, and humanity – and aren’t obsessed with denomination, dogma, or doctrine, join The Messy Grace Tribe! Sign up at patreon.com/iamsteveaustin

This week’s questions:

  • When you know you’re called to speak out against toxic theology (or other toxic systems), what do you do to keep yourself from getting poisoned in the process? Speaking out against it also means being exposed to it, which can make me feel sick sometimes because it’s so toxic.
  • What does the word faith mean to you?
  • Did your relationship with God and your faith change radically after you dealt with the abuse that happened to you?
  • In your opinion, how does Jesus move through the Sacraments?
  • When you’re overwhelmed, how do you practice stillness without becoming more overwhelmed by all the things you’re not doing while practicing stillness?
  • How do you slow down without stopping?
  • I no longer trust my therapist. Can I just leave her?
  • What are some boundaries you recommend all people put in place?
  • How do you set boundaries with people who don’t respect your boundaries?
  • What is your perspective on 1 Corinthians 2:11?
  • What’s the reason you do all that you do – podcasts, blogs, books, speaking, life coaching, etc.?

Tweetable moments:

  • You’ll make more progress by telling people what you’re for, rather than what you’re against. The world is tired of divisiveness and negativity.
  • Faith is trust in what we cannot see. Faith is a gritty hope that better days are coming. It’s the embrace of Mystery. It’s a belief that there is some power greater than we can possibly comprehend that is ultimately working for our good.
  • Abuse impacts us at the level of our trust, but Jesus was abused too.
  • Boundaries remind me that I still belong. They’re a marker.
  • The Spirit of God in me recognizes the Spirit of God in you.

Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith



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In Episode 48 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Benjamin L. Corey, author of the new book, Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith, joins Steve Austin for a powerful conversation about rethinking everything about faith.

Dr. Benjamin L. Corey is a two-time graduate of Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary and holds his doctorate from Fuller Theological Seminary. He is also the author of the new book, Unafraid: Moving Beyond Fear-Based Faith, which is available wherever good books are sold. www.Unafraid-book.com


Show notes:

  • What would you say to someone who doesn’t know what they believe anymore?
  • Put the Theological Gas Cans Down
  • How do you turn a crisis of faith into an awakening? How do I move forward?
  • How do we begin to reframe our faith after deconstruction?
  • What if you’re a faith leader and you find yourself in a crisis of faith?
  • Benefits of secular mental health counseling or therapy for ministers
  • How do we help people stop living the miserable Christian life?
  • Have we made an idol out of the Bible?
  • Does what we believe about the future matter?
  • What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever lived through? And how have you reconciled that with your belief in a God of love?
  • When we have our faith ass-backward, how do we start over?

The #AskSteveAustin Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you’re looking for affordable, accessible, quality help for your mental health, go to BetterHelp.com/AskSteveAustin today.


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Ending song: “Dream” by Act of Congress


power of intention

The Power of Intention (with Logan Tyler Nelson)



In Episode 46 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve Austin talks with Logan Tyler Nelson about the power of embracing and cultivating intentionality in our daily lives. Today’s big question: Is life happening to you, or for you?

power of intention

Show Notes:

Dictionary.com defines the word “intention” like this – an act or instance of determining mentally upon some act or result; another definition is this: purpose or attitude toward the effect of one’s actions or conduct:

Oprah says this, “The #1 principle that rules my life is intention. Thought by thought, choice by choice, we are cocreating our lives based on the energy of intention.”

But what about that quote we’ve heard all our lives, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”? What’s missing between Oprah’s perspective and this old adage about the road to hell?

In Oprah’s book of quotes, The Wisdom of Sundays, Gary Zukav describes the difference between an INtention and an OUTtention. What most of us think of as an intention is actually the outward version of that. Gary’s example is this, “I want to get another job, so I can have more money.” But the INTENTION, as Oprah says it, is the WHY beneath the why. It’s the motivation for getting the new job or more money that counts. It’s the energy you use for doing the intended thing.

Click here to read this week’s blog by Steve Austin, “3 Powerful Ways to Create the Life You Want”.


Quotes from today’s show:

  • “We create our own world. We are responsible for our attitude. That’s the reason you have the reality or the life you are living right now.”
  • “If your life stinks you had something to do with it and the opposite is true. If your life is good you had something to do with it.”
  • “Time is finite.”
  • “To make a life worth living is to save someone from negative thinking.”
  • “Knowing your why is very important, but we have to know the action steps to get there.”
  • “Quality of life comes down to quality of questions.”
  • “To create a life worth living requires a bit of patience and clarity.”
  • “Is life happening to you, or for you?”
  • Oprah Winfrey, “Intention is one with cause and effect. Intention determines outcome. And if you’re stuck and not moving forward, you have to check the thought and the action that created the circumstance.”
  • Donald Miller said, “It is not so much the aim of the devil to lure me with evil as it is to preoccupy me with the meaningless.”

Logan Tyler Nelson is the creator of Scratch You Own Itch podcast, Performance Enhancement Expert, and Published author on Thrive Global.  He inspires and motivates you to “Scratch Your Own Itch” so you can grow personally and professionally.

Logan equips people with the tools necessary to live CREATIVE and EPIC lives, and leaves people better equipped to manage change effectively.  His WHY is he’s a suicide survivor, and shares his powerful testimony globally.

Connect with Logan:

Music by BenSound.


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Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here. Looking for more? If you’re ready to change your life, email steve@iamsteveaustin.com today.


For a chance to win a copy of Steve’s 21-day self-care journal, tag Steve Austin on Facebook or Twitter and share the link to today’s episode, plus this question: Is life happening to you, or for you?

 


Do you Feel Hopeless?

Do you feel hopeless? Listen to this.



In Episode 40 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve Austin shares some encouragement from his own life for folks who feel hopeless. If you’re ready to give up, tired of running, or feel like you’re drowning, please listen to this very personal bonus episode.

Do you Feel Hopeless?

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self-care holidays

12 Snarky Self-Care Tips for the Holidays



This Holiday Bonus Edition of the #AskSteveAustin podcast features Steve Austin and Robert Vore, chatting about several snarky (but honest) self-care tips for the holidays.

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Self-Care Tips for the Holidays

The holiday season is upon us. I can hardly stand the excitement of family get-togethers and out-of-town guests. No, really…I can hardly stand it. If you dread the holidays as much as me, today’s bonus episode includes a whole list of ways to guard yourself against the holiday chaos everyone somehow looks forward to every single year.

Music: Bensound.com

Intro by Alex and Jason (or is it Jason and Alex?) of Not Your Pastor’s Podcast.

Robert Vore has worked for various ministries & non-profits in Georgia, Alabama, Florida, and England. His writing has been featured on The Mighty, Relevant Magazine, Charisma News, Thought Catalog, Patheos, and more. Robert also co-hosts a podcast on Christianity & mental health called CXMH, as well as being a certified QPR Suicide Prevention Instructor for groups of any size. He is currently working towards his Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.

Get Steve’s book, Self-Care for the Wounded Soul, at myselfcarebook.com today!


4 ways to recover your life

4 Ways to Recover Your Life



In Episode 35, Steve Austin chats with his friend and life coaching colleague, Sheena Jeffers, about practical and powerful ways to recover your life.

So many people feel buried under piles of shame, secrets, fear, and unrealistic expectations. If you’re tired of just barely getting by, and are ready to start living the fullest life possible, this is the conversation you’ve been waiting for!

4 Ways to recover your life

Sheena Jeffers is a writer, dancer, yoga teacher, and wellness life coach currently living full-time on her sailboat in Norfolk, Virginia. Originally from Richmond, Virginia, Sheena grew up the granddaughter of a Southern-Baptist preacher in a small town.

She studied English and Journalism at Virginia Commonwealth University and after graduating college, she started the internationally-known dance education blog, Ballet Shoes & Bobby Pins.

She wrote for Answers.com while completing graduate school where she studied innovative learning techniques through the arts.

Sheena founded and co-owns WELLwomen, Inc., a corporation dedicated to the replenishment of women. She promotes wholehearted living through private yoga and life coaching sessions, as well as her writing on her blog www.sheenajeffers.com and www.seaslifeforgood.com.

Sheena lives on a 43-foot Catamaran named Seas Life, and hopes to bring wellness to the world around her wherever she travels.

Show notes:

Today we’re talking about some of life’s big questions:

  1. Who are you?
  2. Why are you here?
  3. Where are you going?

After listening to today’s episode, listeners can go to AskSteveAustin.com and click on the show notes for today’s episode to sign up for my FREE Self-Discovery Starter Kit. (http://bit.ly/2wnYQ5A) This free resource includes a series of 4 emails with printable worksheets for each day.

4 Steps to Recover Your Life:

Music: BenSound.com


How to Survive When Your Spouse Tries to Die by Suicide



Recovery from a suicide attempt feels a lot like resurrection. For the spouse of someone who just caused their own near-death experience, managing the aftermath is unthinkable and overwhelming. In Episode 24 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Rev. Liz Edman interviews Steve and Lindsey Austin. This one is all about the years of recovery since the day Steve tried to die. This extremely vulnerable conversation is the messy marriage story the Austins have been waiting five years to share. 

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A note from Lindsey:

Never would I have dreamed this would be a part of the “for better or for worse” wedding vows I uttered with every intention of living up to. I had every right to leave. To say, “This is too much. This isn’t fair.”

My heart was torn into pieces, but no one could hear it. I knew leaving would mean I would only remember the worst of him, and I would be choosing that fate for my son, too. Even though the day was nearly unbearable, I didn’t want the worst day of my life to define the rest of my life.

It’s been five years now, since the cold tile floor and chatter of nurses in that ICU room. To say every day has been easy would be a lie. Forgiveness is a multi-step process. Each time I have intentionally made a new, happy memory with my husband, I have fought against bitterness and blame.

Our marriage isn’t perfect, but we are beginning to reap the benefits of digging through the nastiest parts of our souls. And we have done it together, for better or for worse.

Read the rest of this powerful confession by clicking right here.

Show notes:

Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Looking for more ways to create space? Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here.

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