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Mailbag Episode: Ask Me Anything!

Welcome to Episode 64 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast with Steve Austin, sponsored by Audible. For a free 30-day trial and one free audiobook, go to audibletrial.com/asksteveaustin – This mailbag episode includes Steve’s responses to listener questions about: people pleasing, boundaries, speaking in tongues, anger, same sex attraction, atheism, and a whole lot more!

Last week, we reached a great big milestone25,000 downloads! Thanks to all of my wonderful guests, the messy grace tribe on facebook, and you the listener – this is a big deal! Thank you!

GIVEAWAY! For the next four weeks, I’m going to be giving away a paperback copy of my book, Self-Care for the Wounded Soul, plus a $25 Amazon gift card. All you have to do for your chance to win is leave a 5-star rating & review on iTunes. Take a screenshot of your review and email it to me at steve@iamsteveaustin.com – I’ll be giving away a copy of my book and an Amazon gift card every week for the next four weeks. Leave a review. Email it to me. It’s that simple. Good luck! And thanks for listening.

Ask Me Anything: AskSteveAustin.com

Show notes:

  • Have you followed my blog? This week on the blog, I shared a couple of new posts. One about the most depressing thing Jesus ever said, and another with 5 podcast episodes you don’t want to miss. Check those out, plus information on my life coaching and more at iamsteveaustin.com
  • My new book, Catching Your Breath: The Sacred Journey from Chaos to Calm, is due out in October! Want to stay up-to-date with all that’s happening with this new book? Join the launch team at catchingyourbreath.com! Subscribers get a free excerpt of the book, exclusive bonus content, and details on how to join the launch team.
  • Are you a member of the Messy Grace Tribe on Facebook? It’s an exclusive, closed Facebook group for supporters and guests of the AskSteveAustin podcast. If you’re looking for a way to continue this conversation every single day with other like-minded, grace-filled people, join the Messy Grace Tribe on Facebook! You can sign up for as little as $1 a month by going to patreon.com/iamsteveaustin. If you’re looking for a safe and diverse community of people who care about compassion, unity, and humanity – and aren’t obsessed with denomination, dogma, or doctrine, join The Messy Grace Tribe on Facebook! Sign up at patreon.com/iamsteveaustin

This week’s questions include:

  1. How do you find the strength to be the most authentic version of yourself, even if it’s bound to disappoint the people closest to you?
  2. How do you personally deal with the fact that just because Jesus can heal someone or fix a situation doesn’t mean he will? How does that affect your faith?
  3. How do you decide when to engage in a conversation or not?
  4. How can we have better conversations with the Evangelical/Fundamentalist brethren?
  5. How did Jesus not punch someone? Or, go absolutely bananas?
  6. What guidance can you give to a Christian who is experiencing unwanted same-sex attraction?
  7. Did you pray in tongues? If you did have the ‘gift of tongues’, do you now believe it was real? Is it something that like the Assemblies of God’s I’ve been to, you practiced? Is it a farce? What are your thoughts now?
  8. Do Jews, Christians, and Muslims all worship the same God?
  9. What is your opinion on atheism?
  10. If you imagine God as a living person, here, now, how do you imagine him/her?

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Grateful: The Transformative Power of Giving Thanks

Are You Grateful? (feat. Diana Butler Bass)

Are you grateful? Join Steve Austin and Diana Butler Bass on Episode 60 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast. Could gratitude change your life, family, community, service, and politics? You are going to love this conversation about the transformative power of giving thanks!

Show notes:

With the morning birdsong,

My heart echoes thank you.

With the rustling sounds in the kitchen,

My heart echoes thank you.

With the early noise in the suburbs,

My heart echoes thank you.

With the awakening words of day,

I add my voice and say thank you.

-“Gratitude,” Diana Butler Bass

Tweetable Moments from Diana:

  • Gratitude’s greatest strength is that it is a feeling. And gratitude’s greatest weakness is that it is a feeling.
  • Gratitude helps us live as our best selves, even in very difficult circumstances.
  • Gratefulness gave me the capacity to look back over all the places I had been and read it differently.
  • Gratefulness turns the past to empowering, instead of disempowering.
  • Because of gratitude, tragedy doesn’t have to be the last word.

Grace: A Divine Vulgarity (feat. Tullian Tchividjian & Drew Hale)

Hello and WELCOME to episode 59 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, featuring Drew Hale and Tullian Tchividjian, with Steve Austin. This show is sponsored by Audible.com – sign up for your free month’s membership at audibletrial.com/asksteveaustin!

Did you listen to the Good Friday bonus episode? If not, you’re going to want to do that. It features confessions and laments from Rev. Liz Edman, Paul Young, Sarah Simmons, JJ Landis, Robert Vore, and so many other friends. Check it out today!

And if you’re experiencing a dark night of the soul, be sure to read this week’s blog, “Hope for the Forsaken: A Doxology of Darkness” at iamsteveaustin.com – while you’re there, check out info on my life coaching, follow my weekly newsletter, and so much more.

Show notes:


Tullian’s Tweetable Moments:

  • Grace is a Divine vulgarity.
  • In the world of performancism, success equals life and failure is tantamount to death.
  • What we do is important, but it is infinitely less important than what Jesus has done for us.
  • Christianity is not about good people getting better.
  • Rebellion and conformity are often opposite sides of the same coin.
  • There’s a big difference in grace a lot vs. grace alone.



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The Big Year-Ender! (feat. Devin Balram & Ukulele Tracy)

Episode 45 is THE BIG YEAR-ENDER! This is one awesome and random mashup of messy grace and mayhem. In this episode, Steve Austin chats with musical guest, Devin Balram, plus his friend (and fellow heretic), Tracy Kane, AKA Ukulele Tracy.

big year-enderShow Notes:

Also from the Messy Grace Tribe this week:

Top 3 Listener-Favorite Episodes of 2017:

  1. How Do I Get More Sex?
  2. How to Survive When Your Spouse Tries to Die by Suicide
  3. 6 Ways to Defeat Discouragement Today

Lyrics to, “Weak Sometimes”:


You’re put to together, you’re so well & put together

That even on your tragic days, you seem fine

You try so hard, to hide that there’s a fight inside

But I can see it in your eyes, that you seem fine



Who ever said, it was wrong to be weak sometimes,

To cry yourself to sleep, & wake up with your tears barely dry

You might feel like you’re dying, that the end is no where in sight

Who ever said, it was wrong to be weak sometimes



You say that pain just gets in the way

Just let it sit, it’ll dissipate

You say that no one’s had a better day,

By dealing with their shame.

Download Devin’s music today – https://noisetrade.com/devinbalram/

Coming up in 2018:

  • Benjamin L Corey
  • Carol Howard Merritt
  • Jay Bakker
  • And we’re getting close to my 50th episode – stay tuned!

Steve Austin is an Amazon best-selling author, life coach, and self-care consultant. Feeling stuck, stressed, or overwhelmed? Get your copy of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul on Amazon today!

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The Miracle and the Mystery of Christmas

In Episode 44, Steve is joined by friend of the show, the Rev. Ed Bacon. This episode is also packed full of your stories! Check this fun-filled episode out for Christmas carols with Ben and Cara, plus favorite Christmas memories from listeners. And don’t miss Ed Bacon’s thoughts on why Christmas still matters. This is a holiday celebration for the whole family!

christmas 2017

Show notes:

Steve Austin is an Amazon best-selling author, life coach, and self-care consultant. Feeling stuck, stressed, or overwhelmed? Get your copy of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul on Amazon today!

something better than christianity

Is There Something Better than Christianity?

In Episode 43 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve is joined by Scott Watkins – an ex-pastor, and former co-host of the Holy Heretics Podcast. In this conversation, the guys talk about to talk about life after Christianity and what it means to be a secular humanist.

Most folks who listen to this podcast love to throw around the word “deconstruction”, but most of them still call themselves some kind of Christian. But what happens when you deconstruct your faith and what you’re left with is no longer appealing? Deeper than that – what happens when it no longer feels like Truth? What do you do when you deconstruct and no longer call yourself a Christian?

something better than christianity

Highlights from today’s episode:

  • “If you love everybody, then you don’t love anybody.”
  • “When your religion becomes toxic, you need to run from it.”
  • “Religion is simply a meaning-making device.”
  • “Spirituality isn’t about answers, but meaning.”
  • “I’m not against Christianity, but I’m for humanity.”
  • “I don’t think Church is about following Jesus. I think it’s about the consolidation of power.”
  • “God is just a projection of the deepest part of our self; and quite frankly, so is the Devil.”
  • “We should absolutely say that people matter more than beliefs.”
  • “Life a life useful.”

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The Gifts of Grief? Are You Serious?

In Episode 42, Steve has way too much fun with the best-selling author (and ok, fine, his friend, Natalie Can-I-Get-Your-Autograph Brenner).

gifts of grief

So, in many instances, the AskSteveAustin podcast has become the place where progressive Christian authors and artists come to share their work. And let me tell you – Natalie Brenner has written a book that I love. This Undeserved Life: Uncovering the Gifts of Grief and the Fullness of Life is beautiful. The writing…omg…it’s beautiful. There are a few writers I know whose words like sing right off the page, and they are, Sarah Robinson, Anne Voskamp, and Natalie Brenner.

When books make me silently weep, without fanfare, just cry those big fat releasing tears because my soul is saying yes – that’s a good book. That’s a really REALLY good book.

Questions about the gifts of grief:

  1. You talk about Jesus in a very genuine and loving way – but your heart at times has nearly been crushed under the weight of grief. How do you reconcile the two? And what the heck do you mean when you say the gifts of grief?
  2. Can we talk about the struggle with church hurts when all you really want to do is love Jesus and his people?
  3. Who is Jesus?
  4. Why is it so important to create a safe space for others to be vulnerable?
  5. What’s it like to parent a child of a different race?
  6. Autographed book giveaway! Retweet this week’s pinned post on twitter @iamsteveaustin for your chance to win a personalized, autographed copy of This Undeserved Life by Natalie Brenner
  7. Compassion means to co-suffer. OMG. Yes, she said that.
  8. NatalieBrennerWrites.com
  9. Music: Bensound.com
  10. Get all of Steve Austin’s info at iamsteveaustin.com

The Heart of Man (with Paul Young)

In Episode 23 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast, Steve Austin and Paul Young discuss the upcoming docudrama, “The Heart of Man”. In this episode, Steve and Paul talk about the truth about sex, abuse, addiction, and recovery. Do not miss this episode.

the heart of man movie

Synopsis (from the website):

“The Heart of Man” is a story inviting the sons and daughters of God to leave behind our broken, moralistic and religious way of thinking and relating to God and to others. Once we begin to know who God is (and as a result who we are), we have something to invite the world into. Freedom from performance. Freedom from managing our behavior so we appear acceptable to God. Freedom from our addictions, compulsive behaviors, secrecy and double lives. This film tears the veil of confusion over the church’s current identity crisis and enables it to invite the rest of the world to the banquet God is throwing all of us.

The film features emotional interviews with real people going through their mess and subsequent healing, and includes expert witnesses of such men as William Paul Young, author of the NY Times best-selling novel The Shack, Dan Allender, Ph.D, author of The Wounded Heart and Spoken Word Artist Jackie Hill Perry. All of that is interwoven with a production-rich “prodigal son” narrative story shot in Hawaii.

Show notes:

  • Get more details about the movie here – http://heartofmanmovie.com/
  • Movie is out in theaters on September 14th ONLY – out on DVD soon after.
  • Light has to enter into the darkness of our secrets for transformation to be possible.
  • Abuse, addiction, and affairs.
  • When people become authentic storytellers, it grants hope to those of us who are in the dark of our own secrets.
  • Shame and fear are awfully effective motivators.
  • People don’t enter this relationship with Jesus – they enter a relationship with Hell.
  • Millennials aren’t comitted to the affiliations that kept them in hiding.
  • What if Jesus is just asking us to invite us into the darkness?
  • At the very darkest place, you will find that Jesus is there.
  • There is no darkness that I bring to the table that God is not already in.
  • Transformation is not you becoming something that you were not before, but revelating what you’ve been the entire time.
  • I’m not defined by my erratic behaviors, but by who God says I am.
  • All you need is a seed.
  • Music in today’s episode from the score for “The Heart of Man”. Music by Tony Anderson.

Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Looking for more ways to create space? Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here.

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I was a Pastor When I Nearly Died by Suicide

Episode 20 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast is a bonus episode, in honor of Suicide Prevention Month. In this episode, Steve Austin shares his story of nearly dying, while he was serving as a Christian pastor. Don’t miss this powerful tale of Steve’s darkest night.

steve austin pastor suicide

Want more?

  1. Subscribe to From Pastor to a Psych Ward, Steve’s 13-episode serial podcast, based on his Amazon best-selling book by the same name.
  2. Subscribe to CXMH: A Podcast at the Intersection of Christianity and Mental Health with Robert Vore and Steve Austin
  3. Get Steve’s book, From Pastor to a Psych Ward, for FREE when you subscribe to his free weekly newsletter. Just click here.
  4. Read the original RELEVANT Magazine post.


  1. Text HELP to 741741 (for the Crisis Line)
  2. Email steve@iamsteveaustin.com to be connected with mental health professionals in your area.
  3. Call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Looking for more ways to create space? Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here.

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Music in today’s podcast is by Tony Anderson, from the soundtrack for the upcoming movie, The Heart of Man.

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BONUS: Faith that Heals Bigotry and Bodies

Episode 17 of the #AskSteveAustin Podcast is BONUS CONTENT!

Steve Austin introduces a talk by Rev. Ed Bacon from Trinity Episcopal Church in Bessemer, Alabama. Steve was present for this talk on Sunday, August 20, 2017. In this brief sermon, Rev. Ed breaks down a portion of Scripture from Matthew 15, about a woman whose persistence changed Jesus. In light of the events from Charlottesville and other places, this is the timeliest of messages.

faith that heals bigotry and bodies

Show notes:

  • Matthew 15
  • Want to change history? Believe in what your heart is telling you to hope for.
  • Christ lives in the marginalized.
  • Faith is action. Faith is a verb. Faith does something.
  • Sometimes we have to sail off the map we have received from our parents, culture, etc.
  • Listen to this episode online or on iTunes today. (And please leave a review!)

Rev. Ed Bacon is former Rector of All Saints, Pasadena, California. He is a frequent guest on Oprah’s Soul Series, and also contributes to the Huffington Post and Truthdig. Ed has received numerous accolades for his peace and interfaith work. Connect with Ed on Twitter, his website, or buy 8 Habits of Love: Open Your Heart, Open Your Mind on Amazon.

Steve Austin is a life coach, speaker, and author of Self-Care for the Wounded Soul. Steve’s goal is to help you create a lifestyle of focused emotional health and clarity. Looking for more ways to create space? Subscribe to Steve Austin’s free weekly newsletter by clicking right here.

You can also listen on iTunes or Podbean.